Displaced Anger

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Your deepest secret may be the anger you are afraid to show.

At any early age, you pushed hard against anger to conceal its power. You made yourself a person who doesn't get angry, a person who has no need to anger because you have risen above it. You learned that if you express anger you are labeled, condemned, medicated and judged harshly. Denial, suppression, masking and hiding anger with everyone, except other women, becomes your style

Upon women and girls, you take liberties to gossip, exclude and withdraw. To women and girls, you may appear meaner and unsupportive because they are the only safe place for your anger. You are relieved, but it keeps you from feeling closet to those who offer and need you the most.

The displacement of your anger can cause you to feel lonely in this world because without other women, your prosperity is in peril.

Break the cycle of displaced anger by giving yourself the authority to be angry wherever you are and with anyone who hurts you.

Appropriate anger is the surest way to curb displaced anger

Like you, your sisters struggle with their authority to express anger.

Encourageing their anger can be an act of love. The integration of anger is a giant step toward wholeness.


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Commentary:

Anger is the ‘best kept secret’ in anyone’s life. We struggle to hide anger from others, and from ourselves, because we fear its strength and dread its exposure.

For men, anger is a sign of power. For women, anger is a sign of shame. Who authorized angers bad reputation? As children we learned that being angry with our parents is shameful, no matter how wrong they were. Gradually we take our anger into seclusion – but not without consequences.

Dr.'s Douglas Brodie and Candice Port, found that ‘hidden’ repressed anger is often the cause of serious illness because it weakens our immune system drastically. They added, “Most people are completely unaware that they are angry.”

Our lack of awareness doesn’t take away the “sting of anger.” It will resurface to distort our lives in many ways. A few obvious results of repressed anger are:

  • Sleeplessness
  • Addictions
  • Irritability
  • Rage or aggression
  • Profound sadness you can’t shake off
  • Solitude
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Eating disorders

The ‘power of anger’ will not be silenced, and because it won’t, we displace it on those we love the most. If you’ve never taken the time to know - your - anger, you may never - know - yourself.

Anger wants the truth to be told so you can enjoy a life to behold!

This month’s discussion will be dynamic and powerful. Hopefully, it will restore the healthy reputation anger deserves.

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