You were born to embody the ideals of love.
For as long as you can remember, you were expected to love. And whatever distracted you from this ideal was unfeminine.
This cultural message has created dilemmas for you over and over again because inevitably, your loving-self was forced to mediate reality.
To be an idealist without losing sight of reality is important for your survival and personal growth. When the people you love hurt, betray or ask too much of you; take you for granted or devalue you, you must face that reality with healthy conflict because that is keeping love alive.
Fight for what must change in love. Demanding respect is love. Love demands that you are a realist without betraying your ideal of love.
Love is not easy. It will both challenge and reward you in the same moment.
Your new love must be a mature love that you have created.
Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are
By:Ann Mody Lewis, Ph.D.
Reason: 227 Page: 245
Commentary:
New Love can be a new person to love, or a new way of loving.
If love is the primary purpose of our lives, finding new-ways-to-love should be our primary quest!
In love we are 'born' again not because we're excited but because we have allowed love to challenge and expand us. In the recent movie, War Room, Miss Clara tells Elizabeth Jordan that her anger about her husband's behavior is being directed toward the wrong enemy. Miss Clara calls the 'enemy' corrupting her marriage, the devil. I call it gender.
Tony Jordon, like so many men, surrenders his character for the glitter of success. Love was forgotten.
Like so many women, Elizabeth Jordon, was angry with Tony because she couldn’t teach him how to be loving. Her happiness was forgotten.
Tony’s conversion from hyper-masculinity is swift and Elizabeth’s freedom from despair is impressive. Their love has a ‘new future’ because each of them were released from the polarity gender created within them. We all need a ‘War Room’ to contemplate what love is all about, then it can reign supremely in our lives.
Hopefully, this month’s conversation about ‘love’ will be a ‘War Room’ to help you connect with your potential to be loving.
Let’s Talk!
Ann
