Tears are Holy

Tears are Holy

Your tears are holy. Never turn away from them.

As a little girl you were told, "Don't cry." The older you became, the more you listened, because then you learned that tears are not smart.

Because of your tears, you are thought of as weak; manipulative.

Your tears make you an unfit leader;

your tears make you too complicated for others to manage.

You learned to cry alone, or worse, to not cry at all.

One day, someone wanted to hear your sadness. Your tears told your story so honestly that you could not stop them.

Your tears will no longer listen to the shame. They take charge and you say, "Okay!"

On that day, you are cleansed and are able to befriend your ultimate Self, the Self you were always meant to be! Real! Peaceful and known!

Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are

By: Ann Mody Lewis, Ph.D.

Reason: 126 Page: 144


Because we know our outer life reveals our inner life, we struggle to hold back our tears. Tears embarrass and humiliate us by exposing the pain we carry within. Forgotten pain or pain we presumed didn’t matter forces itself into exposure, most of the time without our consent. The body never forgets its wounds without recognition. When something in your outer life connects with that inner pain… tears will flow because pain is awakened.

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”
(Gibran, The Prophet) Feeling pain, and tears that follow, is an act of love because letting go of resistance is trusting your emotions. Tears are better than pills, but in this era, pharmaceuticals pills are used to mask our pain. We seem to be forgetting a fundamental truth: The body can heal itself if it’s governed by your love.

What makes tears holy is not their wetness but their meaning! That meaning is the story you tell about your life. Don’t apologize for your tears as you ‘tell your story’. They release your body of sadness, grief, stress, anger and frustration. Tears of happiness or pain show how human you are because you’ve allowed yourself to reveal your simplicity.

“Tears are words the mouth can’t say nor can the heart bear.”

This month’s topics will include: How do men grieve? Why are women judged for grieving? Why is grief a sign of weakness? What makes tears healthy? Are tears a sign of courage or incompetence?

Join the discussion to free your heart!