Not being listened to
Have you ever felt that no one listens to you?
Do you want them to listen? Do you want to be heard? What messages are you holding in your heart? Why are you afraid to release them? Are you afraid that they have no value?
For centuries women have been led by the untruths of every culture: whatever is feminine is less valuable, less intelligent and less worthy. This untruth has no basis in scientific research. It was simply cultural traditions promoted by patriarchal dominance.
Now is the time to say, "No more!" It ends every time you speak honestly, with confidence and passion. Don't worry about your rightness. It's not nearly as destructive as the silence that has ruled your life.
Your truth is sacred. Your truth is unique. announce it! Listen to yourself! Every time you do, a new tradition of respect for what is feminine is established.
Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are
By: Ann Mody Lewis, Ph.D.
Reason: 5 Page: 23
Commentary:
We all know that listening is difficult, but what we don't know is how much pain we cause by not listening. Why we don't listen doesn't matter to the person who isn't heard. We don't listen in many ways:
- Not returning a phone call, text or email.
- Not asking questions, talking over the speaker, or simply cutting them off before they're finished.
- Invalidating what they say: making it wrong, silly, irrelevant, or shameful.
Oh, the damage we create because "we're too busy."
If we are not listened to, we end up feeling unimportant.
If we're not listened to, we're unknown.
How many times have you asked: "Did you hear what I said?"
By realizing how painful it is to not be heard, we can become committed to listening.
When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten.
I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me".
Listening is not the passive process most people imagine it to be. It actually takes energy to listen, because we're focus on what we hear. Listeners want to learn, understand (not necessarily agree), or demonstrate their love by being emotionally present. Being a good listener can change the world that you live in and the loves you share.
This month's discussion is important to all of us, because we all need to be heard from deep in our souls. Our identity craves attention, and the best way to get it is simply to be heard!
Discussions will include:
- Hearing is not listening.
- Listening is powerful.
- Show love by listening.
- How can we let others know we heard them?
- Appreciating the power of listening.
- Listening is healing.
Be on line to discuss this topic, so you can be in-tune with those you love!
Let's talk,
ann
