Doubting Yourself

 

Doubting Yourself

 

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Don’t doubt yourself; doubt the people and institutions that wanted you to censor everything you stand for so they could own your life.

The ownership of your life is a privilege that is totally yours. Self-doubt makes you a stranger to yourself. You become afraid to express your own inclinations, your own dreams, your true emotions and your deepest insights. You step away from the radical ideas and the many manifestations of your uniqueness because you hope they will buy your approval.

After years of self-doubting, love doesn’t come and the love you share is not believable. It is true that there is a risk when you stand up for yourself rather than doubt yourself, but the benefits far exceed those risks. You know all too well what it feels like to doubt yourself. Life becomes a burden and people become a trap. You no longer enjoy the privilege of being alive and belonging to yourself.

Self-doubt can be reversed by you when you censor the people and institutions that thought they were wiser than you.

The Goddess Sophia speaks to you. Hear Her voice. Your life is a unique gift to the world. Seize the moments!

Doubting people and institutions keeps you in charge of who you are and what you internalize. Use your marvelous-self to protect your inner sanctuary. Let no one compromise the miracle of who you were meant to be.

 

From: Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are

Reason: 351  Page: 369

By: Ann Mody Lewis Ph.D.

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Commentary:

Do you live under the gloom of original sin or the excited anticipation of self-discovery? Original Sin is a religious term that refers to Adam and Eve disobeying God by eating fruit from the Tree of Good and Evil when they were told not to. According to religious mythology, humanity became permanently flawed and in need of redemption. The Garden of Eden story is carried in our DNA. We say disparaging things about ourselves: Oh, what do you expect from me? I'm only human. I'm just a sinner like everyone else! Evil exists wherever people put their feet. You need Jesus to make you holy! The premise behind most religions is helping followers overcome their flawed nature!

Self-opinion is the most important opinion, because it generates feelings and beliefs about who we are. From within our world is created. In psychology we call this phenomenology. You see the world not as it is, but how you are!

If you feel flawed, shame will block your self-appreciation.
If you feel fat, you hide from self-respect.
If you feel guilty, you won't assert your rights.
If you believe you're stupid, you won't stand by your opinions.
If you feel unworthy, you won't follow your dreams.
Anxiety about feeling flawed will obstruct your peace.

We know from an abundance of research that our self opinion is at the core of mental health. Without your awareness, your body combats the stress of negativity every moment you live. We are told that Deity will correct our flawed nature,
but, truth is, only you can restore your self-perception.

Born This Way by Lady Gaga gives us a way to enjoy the fruits of life.

My mama told me when I was young
We are all born superstars

"There's nothing wrong with loving who you are"
She said, "'Cause he made you perfect, babe"
"So hold your head up girl and you'll go far,
Listen to me when I say"

I'm beautiful in my way
'Cause God makes no mistakes

Don't hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you're set.

The July newsletter is bound to make you uncomfortable because it points to a world, the inner life, that you put aside with personal pride. That world is waiting for you to set it free from negativity that holds you down. Saying no to hurtful beliefs will help you say: yes, to life!

Join the July discussion that will include these topics and many more: The core of unhealthy thoughts is promoted as religious truth. How negativity about humanity makes it difficult to form community. How does self-doubt take away your personal power? When you are doubting yourself, we all lose.

Let's talk!
Ann


  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Self-Doubt can be:
    self-incriminating
    self-revealing
    self-developing
    self-monitoring
    self-sabotaging
    You decide.
    So end our discussion of this unpopular topic.

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    What is certain about life is uncertain moments will occur.

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    Self-doubting can be a sign of respectful honesty.

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    Why do women, doubt the power of a man when they are uncertain of themselves?

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    Why do strong women make uncertain men ‘doubt’ their power?

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    If you never experience ‘self-doubt’ you may be a narcissist.

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    When children have problems mothers have self-doubt.

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    “I’ll be right eventually,” are the words of a man who won’t allow self-doubt to penetrate his reality.

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    Men who have self-doubt about fathering their children deprive them of a ‘daddy’!

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    Anger is usually your defense of self-doubt you don’t know how to resolve.

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    Children who are learn to question- who-are will become unworthy adults.

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    Parents,use your power to teach children self-doubting to shape their conscience, not shame their identity!

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    Self-doubt can be the beginning of new insight, intelligence and healthy humility.

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    Fearing to ‘doubt’ yourself will force you to be absurdly righteous.

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    Intimate relationships grow when lovers are willing to doubt their own rightness.

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    A powerful expression of personal power is converting self-doubt to self-certainty.

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    In times of uncertainty we doubt yourselves long enough to relearn life.

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    Love makes self-doubt most likely and most dangerous.

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    Don’t let self-doubt become self-abandonment!

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    Doubt yourself with humility, because you want to learn, not because you question your worth.

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    When does ‘doubting yourself’ become and opportunity for growth or impediment to it? Your thoughts?

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    “I can die happily. I have not kept a single teaching hidden in a closed hand. Everything that is useful for you, I have already given. Be your own guiding light.” ( Buddha)
    What happens to us when we doubt our “own guiding light?”
    Self-Doubt is the topic of discussion for July from my book: Kiss Your Life…365 Reasons to Love Your Life. Let’s talk! ann

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    Time
    to conclude our discussion of Fantasy. You may have questioned the
    relevance of this topic because fantasies are child-play, but its the
    youthful ‘inner child’ that keeps your life forever young!