Love and Self-Identity

In his wonderful book The Art of Loving, Eric Fromm writes: “Love is when two become one, and yet remain two.”

This healthy definition of love is in stark contrast to the general perception that true love is being willing to lose yourself both in and to your beloved. You boast that your beloved knows your thoughts without your speaking them; knows your needs without your asking.

Are you asking too much of love?

Is your idea of love so unrealistic that its attainment is impossible?

The attainment of love is most possible when you are realistic. The oneness of love is the mental decision to grow together in your individualism and as friends; to offer each other respect and emotional support.

No one has to disappear for the sake of love.

To believe that violates the very essence of love, which is to be seen.

From: Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are

By: Ann Mody Lewis Ph.D.

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