June, 2013 Resocialization of Men Reason 342 – Page 360
Resocialization of Men
Almost a century ago, psychologist Alfred Adler described gender socialization
as “the sexist illness of our social organism.”
It is a system that idealizes masculinity and burdens men to prove themselves a
real man who can dominate women and other men.
In pursuit of superiority, too many men lead lonely lives because the pursuit is
competitive, alienating them from true relationships. Man’s place in society
becomes a place of power, not a place of meaning. You must not be a collaborator
in this system that methodically victimizes the lives of young boys the moment
they are born.
Help by understanding the system without rejecting the victim.
Help by not allowing yourself to be overtaken. It is more beneficial to challenge
what is unhealthy than to become a part of the unhealthy illusion. Be a friend,
not a mother, to your male partner.
A friend will expect more, want more, ask for more and be ready to enjoy more.
A friend will not tolerate being unappreciated and undervalued because true
cooperation is only possible between equals.
A friend is not afraid that love will go away as she pursues a love in which she
can believe.
The man you love does not have the advantage of a men's feminist movement, so
you must bring the wisdom of feminism to him so he can love himself, and you,
completely.
