You take pride in being a faithful lover; loyal in love in all circumstances. Yet sometimes, in your loyalty, it is hard to figure out a strategy for your endurance and survival.
During restless nights, you pray for strength and clarify to bear the unbearable.
Your loyalty is a precious quality that cultural expectation distirt. Loyalty is exprected of you, but at your own expense. Loyalty is not a women's responsibility, but a women's gift. It is gifted to those you love, but it must first be gifted to yourself.
Self-loyalty stands by its own truth.
Allow your loyalty to be an expression of your character and not an annihilation of your truth.
365 Reasons to Love Who You Are from the book 'Kiss Your Life'
By:Ann Mody Lewis, Ph. D
Reason: 113 Page: 131
Commentary:
The one-word promise that lovers make to each other is “Faithful.” In her book: My One Word: Change Your Life With Just One Word, Rachel Olsen adds this thought “As soon as you fail, you’ve broken the resolution. A word can’t be broken. It serves as a reminder, a filter. It’s who you want to be instead of what you regret.” Popular one word resolutions are, love – connectedness – balanced - centered – gratitude, reveal something of culture, individualism and character.
We usually expect ‘faithful’ to follow love. Faithful implies:
“I’m with you.”
“I remember you in the presence of others.”
“I will suffer and rejoice with you.”
In the most dire circumstances women are expected to be ‘faithful’. Their character is pressured to be strong enough to endure hardship; convert an unfaithful lover and turn – the – other cheek. For millennium men are excused from faithfulness as one of the privileges of gender inequality. Their character is presumed to be weak and less focused because their sexual appetite overrules their capacity to make clear emotional choices. These archaic ideas discredit both sexes. It burdens women and demeans men. What comforts both sexes is knowing that they are ‘special enough’ to enjoy the faithfulness of the other.
This month’s discussion will force us to discuss a quality of love we all need but is endangered in the age of advancing technology.
