How many times have you given your confidence to someone who did not deserve it, but they wanted it anyway? Why do you five your confidence so freely?
You may give your confidence to men prematurely, because you want them to be the person you need them to be. At times you give your confidence even when your intuitive-self tells you to be cautious.
Is believing in the authority of men more important than believing in that of your own?
Is the little girl in you looking for a daddy -- a man who will take care of you and make life easier?
Be careful of what you surrender for an easier life, because without your knowing it, life can become incredibly difficult when your personal truth is left behind. To have confidence in someone is reassuring, but it requires enough shared moments to be justified and enough self-loyalty to be credible.
You are under no obligation to give your confidence.
Your only obligation is to have enough confidence in yourself to protect your life.
Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are
By: Ann Mody Lewis, Ph.D.
Reason: 329 Page: 347
Confidence believes that you have the right to stand up for yourself!
That's what Jennifer Lawrence did this week when she was criticized for wearing an "utterly ridiculous" outfit to a London press event. Her response to the critics:
"The Versace dress was fabulous; you think I'm going to cover that gorgeous dress up with a coat and a scarf? I was outside for 5 minutes. I would have stood in the snow for that dress because I love fashion and that was my choice."
"This is sexist, this is ridiculous, this is not feminism. Over-reacting about everything someone says or does, creating controversy over silly innocuous things such as what I choose to wear or not wear, is not moving us forward. It's creating silly distractions from real issues. Get a grip people. Everything you see me wear is my choice. And if I want to be cold THAT'S MY CHOICE TOO!"
No one expects a woman to have Jennifer Lawrence confidence, except when she's caring for someone, cooking food or demonstrating her motherliness! Because cultural conditioning teaches little girls that being liked is more important than being yourself, women end up living their lives under their personal radar.
Men are supposed to have confidence, even if they don't feel it. Faking confidence becomes self-protective from an early age for little boys. Action toys, testosterone, rigorous workouts, guns and powerful cars or trucks demonstrate their might!
Culture is the main confidence killer, because it erodes our self-opinion by demanding our conformity to ridiculous standards that make no human sense! It is our sense of self that becomes the breeding ground for confidence! Believing in your SELF may be the only strength you have at times; and it is ultimately rewarding, because it makes you interesting and attractive. How can anyone see your uniqueness without confidence?
Eleanor Roosevelt reminded us that: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
This month's topic will explode your mind! Confidence is the foundation of your emotional life making YOU the custodian of your peace and happiness. Topic of discussion will include: Definitions of confidence. How the lack of confidence destroys men and women. How parents can build the confidence level of their children. How respecting others builds your confidence? When is confidence most attractive?
Make this discussion about YOU!