Honesty

 

Honesty

 

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Honesty is not cruelty. It is the bedrock of a true relationship.

Your fear of honesty will keep you silent, distant, and angry. This belief will entrap you in a no-win situation as it disintegrates all hope for intimacy. When you are not honest, you are not completely present in a relationship. Your honesty is your presence.

Honesty does not have to be agreeable, likable, or create a solution. It is the expression of your cognitive and emotional truth. The value of honesty is well documented. It gives you relief, builds a trusting friendship, and insures a final peace. It is not easy to be honest, but its value is immeasurable.

The rewards of honesty may be accompanied by pain, rejection, humiliation, and anger. But soon, the tides of unrest will settle into a heightened depth of closeness and awareness.

When you find yourself withholding your truth because you think it will cause problems, remember that doing so will be the death of the relationship. It will be an opportunity missed, Self unacknowledged, and avoidance of intimacy.

Honesty challenges us to trust love in the deepest way.

Honesty says: “I love you enough to be completely known and want to be completely loved.”

 

From: Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are

Reason: 322  Page: 340

By: Ann Mody Lewis Ph.D.

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Commentary:

There is a difference between honesty and truth. Experts tell us that honesty involves
emotional information while truth is factual information. Are they related? You decide.

Our bodies have an intelligence that most of us don't respect. It thrives on honesty which means truth is combined with our willingness to know and share the content of our lives. Many aboriginal tribes believe that honesty is healing. When a person is sick they are invited to sit in the center of a circle and speak to the villagers about things that have never been said, thus releasing the tension inside their body that compromises their health.

We may deceive ourselves into thinking that our pain doesn't matter because revealing it is
humiliating, but our body keeps the score, and eventually what we don't tell makes us
less happy, more prone to illness,  less kind and because we become suspicious of love.

In this day of cyber communication, misinformation has become an epidemic, and those of us who are too lazy to seek truth believe in the delusions of evil others promote. During this pandemic, we must fear misinformation as passionately as we fear the virus itself because it contaminates the sacred domain of our inner self that thrives on honesty.

Our commitment to honesty is really our commitment to ourselves. Whenever we decide
that our truth will not be silenced by shame, fear, or pride we are born into a life completely which means every living-moment is holy.

This powerful topic can revitalize your understanding of how to keep yourself healthy! 
Your participation will be measured by your commitment to face the parts of yourself
that are expected to be hidden. Refuse holding back so you can move forward. Feel the freedom of living in honesty. 

Topics to be discussed: How do honesty and truth complement each other? What are
the medical and psychological benefits of honesty? How does dishonesty cause illness?
How do others suffer when I can’t be honest? 

Join the discussion to deepen your passion for health.

Let's talk!
Ann


  • Ann Mody Lewis

    HONESTY was never meant to be cruel and disrespectful. You have a
    responsibility to be honest respectfully, passionately and sincerely.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    I think we need to have an honest conversation about the violence resulting from GEORGE FLOYD’S killing!

    I am a nonviolent person but whenever I read about or see the long-term
    injustice against Black Americans I become enraged. I want to change it
    but can’t. I want to scream for justice but no one will hear me. The
    brutality is shocking to a white-privileged woman.
    Can you imagine the anger of generations of Black Americans who must train their children to be safe because their safety can’t be presumed?

    Imagine what its like to be a Black Mother who knows there is a strong
    possibility she will bury her son before his maturity, or see him
    unjustly imprisoned?
    The video we’ve seen of George Floyd pleading
    for his life gives us rare insight of what brutality is like when a
    privileged white man uses his whiteness to justify his violent heart.

    So, how do I feel about the violent demonstrations? Part of me respects
    the rights of SOME to justify their radical reactions to a radical
    history of deliberate cruelty. Then a part of me wishes change could
    come peacefully…and I’m sure our Black Brothers and Sisters have had
    the same wish for centuries.
    What are your thoughts. Let’s talk!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Too many of us believe that honesty is cruelty, so we withhold, withdraw or worst, terminate…that is cruelty!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Saying ‘No’ may be the beginning of honesty!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Dishonest with others is unwise.
    Dishonesty with yourself is pathological.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    When I googled ‘people known for their honesty’ this is what I got:
    Abraham Lincoln (Honest Abe)
    Gandhi
    George Washington
    Marilyn Monroe
    No one will be surprised by the first three but…Marilyn Monroe?
    As damaged as she was by life, Marilyn was direct and naive.
    Her beauty made her prey to men without a soul.
    After her death Jackie Kennedy said she would be famous among women.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    A commitment to honesty can create a conversion in your life.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Let’s be honesty…bad government causes more problems than challenging issues.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    HONESTY gives sex its deepest meaning because we are united before we touched!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    HONESTY separates us from our own denial, avoidance, immaturity and bull-shit.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Honesty is healing because it makes forgiveness possible.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    When speaking honestly, you see yourself in a whole new way.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Conflict is productive when you can be honest.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Without HONESTY we can’t recover from anything!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    HONESTY tells a story about the deepest part of us.
    How deeply we love.
    How humble we can be.
    Our ability to stay connected.
    How dependable we are.
    How well we have cultivated our sanity and
    live in spirituality.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Living a honest life is an important decision to make and difficult to implement.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    In the midst of hardship, loss, or heartache our ability to be HONEST will dictate the quality of our survival.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Humility makes HONESTY a possibility!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Self-incrimination does not discourage an HONEST person…they gain clarity and integrity.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    HONESTY is not all about facts…it’s more about our ability to accept them.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    MOTHER, is a powerful word!

    She is a person and an institution, Madonna, and woman.

    We idealize her, work hard to make her happy, are confused by her
    uncertainty, shocked by her anger and sometimes can’t wait to get away,
    but all the time she is there to tell us what we’re doing wrong, or
    right.

    MOTHER teaches us about
    the many faces of love that expects us to be sacrificial, loyal,
    in-charge and forgiving. Whatever she was or was not, we need to make
    peace with our mother because without it we can’t be an honest lover
    ourselves.

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Without honesty our life becomes chaotic!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    Let’s be honest…
    * America is not safe for black men.
    * We would rather spill milk and plow food underground than find a way to feed children who make up on third of the poor.
    * Our precious democracy has not been strong enough to stop our corrupt government.
    * We have lost touch with healthy spirituality that could guide our moral decisions.
    * Children are most unsafe in their own families.
    * We are becoming more ‘remote from one another’ as we desperately need intimacy to be healthy.
    * We forgotten to pray…thus losing touch with our own holiness.
    This sounds like a litany of negativity, its not!
    Change begins with honesty!

  • Ann Mody Lewis

    The theme of May’s discussion is HONESTY.
    Our interest in this topic is heightened if we calculate how much we suffer from dishonesty.
    Let’s talk! Ann