Fantasies

Fantasies

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When we give up too much of ourselves, we use fantasy as a psychic escape. We fantasize taking moments to read, a day to ourselves, a vacation of our dreams or having enough money to buy the purse or clothing for which we have longed.

You may fantasize how life would have been different had you continued to work or been able to devote all of your energies to your career or creation. You may fantasize a home of your own, where you could escape and be responsible for only you.

Fantasy does not mean you don't love your family or that you resent caring for those you love. It indicates that you are not paying enough attention to your own longings. You may not share your fantasies with anyone because of your shame and fear that others will see you as uncommitted and selfish. Your fantasies are a sign of your yearning.

They are calling out to you for recognition, balance, and personal satisfaction. They are reminding you that your life is about loving the life you live. Fantasies can be real when you get real with yourself.

Your longings are the seed the Goddess planted in your soul that wants to bloom.

 

From: Kiss Your Life... 365 Reasons to Love Who You Are

Reason: 341  Page: 359

By: Ann Mody Lewis Ph.D.

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Commentary:

When John Lennon awakened very early one morning, he wrote his most impressive song of his career: Imagine. The prophet that he was invited us to imagine a spiritual world that focused on what was important about life: equality...love...unity.

Our cynical nature might think what he imaged has nothing to do with reality because it's the language of the heart. Our preoccupation with everyday concerns numbs our belief in the power of our emotional and spiritual SELF that always begs for our attention. That power precedes every...

thought we have,
every decision we make,
every yearning of our heart.

Fantasies stretch us into our full potential. Fantasies can teach us what being human means.

We can heal what is broken...
Recover from what was traumatizing.
Change what is no longer working.

Fantasies give us another chance to learn and expand our life over and over again. They teach us that life is renewable and evolving. Fantasies force us out of our rigidity into possibility. Children know this. That's why they watch cartoons and play imaginary games. We call it kId stuff, but it may very well be the kind of stuff that keeps us youthful and healthy.

We can become our dreams. When we believe in our dreams life feels less burdensome because it is filled with opportunities. The topic this month will be difficult for readers to assimilate because all of us are victims of secular thinking that makes what is spiritual kid stuff!  Escape with me into fantasy, as we broaden our understanding of what it means to be fully human.

Topics will include:

- Why is fantasy essential to our health? 
- How can I nurture my fantasy life? 
- What does fantasy have to do with recovery? 
- How is fantasy discouraged in our culture and why is that killing us? 

Fantasy is not a separation from reality, it is deepening reality.

Let's talk and share some kid stuff!
Ann


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    Parents who fantasize the ‘perfect child’ hold back approval of the child they have.

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    There is hardly a time of day when your fantasies go away!

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    Fantasizing the blessings of peace can motivate us to overcome anger.

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    In our fantasies we can focus on what is possible without being distracted by fear.

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    Only we know the secrets of our mind where fantasies entertain us and others can’t find.

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    ‘Blessed are those who had an Abba’ so they never had to fantasize having a father.

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    ‘Wishing your life was perfect’ is a fantasy we all share’

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    In ‘white-America’ ‘black American’ must fantasize…safety, equality and prosperity!

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    You probably do more fantasizing than you imagine…
    *lover you want
    *car you’d like to drive
    *fat bank account to make feel secure
    *sex filled with romance
    *a home by the water
    *deserts that won’t make you chubby
    *parents that approve of you
    *friends that don’t walk away
    Life is full of fantasies…savor the moments!!!

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    Good sex is as much about fantasy as it is about reality!

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    Fantasies can make any ordinary experience feel extraordinary!

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    In the midst of despair fantasies can generate hope in this way they help us survive.

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    Marie Curie
    Martin Luther
    Mother Teresa
    Leonardo DA Vinci
    Rosa Parks
    Eleanor Roosevelt
    Ryan White
    Jane Austen
    Bill Gates
    Queen Victoria
    Margaret Thatcher
    Pablo Picasso
    Diana, Princess of Wales
    Mahatma Gandhi
    Amelia Earhart
    Albert Einstein
    Susan B. Anthony
    Mohamed Bouazizi
    Nelson Mandela
    MalalaYousafzai
    and thousands more…Thank you for your FANTASIES!!!

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    We start our lives with fantasies.
    If fantasies stop we grow old quickly!

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    I think the ‘new church’ is on the street.

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    Fantasies can teach us what being human means.
    We can heal what is broken…
    Recover from what was traumatizing.
    Change what is no longer working

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    FANTASIES are the prelude to a new reality!

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    Why are fantasies important?
    Because if you can’t see it, you can’t be it!

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    My Fantasy.

    Throughout my childhood visiting family was our
    vacation. We shared wonderful food, played games, sang together and told
    stories. One summer we traveled to the ocean for a day. I had never
    seen the ocean or sand. I fell in love immediately! From that day I
    fantasized having a Beach House of my own.

    In January of 1990 I
    made my dream come true. I built my Beach House. I wasn’t rich…I was
    just in love. I had enough faith in my life to know I would be able to
    manage the expense.
    Wherever I went
    I bought beautiful things that gave the house a unique and homey
    feeling…old and new, color and peace everywhere. Many memorable
    moments were share in my Beach House. This week I sold it in one day!

    Now, I must say goodbye to my dream and let someone else continue its
    legacy of love and happiness by the sea. As I give away my collection of
    beauty things I cry feeling the loss of this dream to begin another.
    Soon a group of friends and myself will introduce a new spiritual
    community…Caring People. It a dream that combines spirituality with
    our psychology. This dream will be OUR DREAM TO SHARE. ann

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    You may think being a Dreamer is a waste of time, but the dreams you have will predict the life you live!

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    FANTASIES are the seeds of longing within you..waiting for your determination to bloom.

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    FANTASIES, the theme of our June discussion, has a lot to do with our emotional health. Fantasies are not ‘Kids Play’ they are generated by the ‘Kid’ in us that is forever imagining a better way to live and love.
    Let’s Talk!
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    “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.”

    Trump standing in from of a cathedral waving the Holy Bible is forcing us all to think about the meaning of holiness.
    Are we holy if we own a Bible, read it and can quote its content?
    What makes us holy?

    All the spiritual masters were clear about one truth: Without our internal conversion holiness is not possible. It doesn’t require us to be religious or a believer. It tells us that we will be known by how we love our own Spirit and the lives of those who walk around us. Namasda!